What Is The Purpose Of Communicating?
You might say.
To be heard, to get my point across, to be understood, to share my ideas to get other people to take action etc.
But what if you considered that, the purpose of communication is to help others suffer less?
Just think about that for a moment.
If you framed your communication practices from that context what would happen?
We all fall into a communication trap of speaking like those around us.
No one sat you down and asked you, do you want to learn how to communicate?
You learnt how to communicate by communicating with those around you, your parents, your family, your friends, anybody.
You took on other people’s habits, styles of speech, words and patterns and soon you were are a mixture of everyone you’ve met along the way.
Many of my clients would like to communicate more clearly, confidently, empathically and assertively.
You can communicate like this the majority of the time if you frame your communication with the purpose to help reduce other people’s suffering.
What happens when you do this?
You start to notice that you take care of the words that you use, you understand their power over others and you understand their power over you.
You say them differently and use a different tone and expression.
If you intend to be kind to others, then your words will be as well.
Even in stressful situations, you can still communicate clearly, calmly and compassionately.
But it is a constant challenge of getting it right and getting it wrong.
Despite our best intentions we still communicate without thinking, and we forget our aim.
That’s ok; you’re not a robot.
When you fall off the wagon, it is important to understand that you have to communicate with yourself the same way.
Next time you have to communicate with someone, don’t rush, butt in, shout or talk over them.
and communicate with the intention to reduce their suffering.
Try it and see what happens.