You have evolved in an environment completely different to the one we live in today.
You are indeed a fish out of water.
Gasping for breath as you suddenly find yourself in a complex, messy and chaotic new world.
Life used to be simple for you, small communities, living in the moment, no worries about bills or how you are going to buy that new house, a new car or win that promotion.
Yes, it was dangerous living in the wilds.
Although we were pretty good at hunting ourselves, given a chance we were prey for other animals.
As a pack animal, we were pretty safe in a group, as part of a community.
It made sense that we are wired to see threats, the blade of grass moving over there?
Could be the wind, could be a stalking lion...
Better to be safe than sorry.
Let's not get ourselves thrown out of the group, make sure we conform, play our part.
Living on your own in the wilds isn't a good idea.
Let's be safe, let's be accepted by others.
Better to live in fear, you'll survive longer.
You need to retrain your mind, help it see the world through the eyes of love.
Stop actively reading the news
No matter what your views on the world, what media you consume, most of the news is fear based.
Now your fear based mind says if I stop reading the news I don't know what is going on.
But the news is out there, it is everywhere, it is on on the radio, on newspaper stands, in everyone else's head.
It will come to you.
No need to search for fear, no need to fill your mind with it.
Try it, stop actively consuming the news for 28 days and you'll see that you still know what is going on in the world.
But you'll have less fear in your head.
Curate your social media feed
Garbage in garbage out, GIGO.
In computer science, GIGO is used to express the idea that flawed or nonsense input data produces nonsense output or "garbage".
Now you aren't reading the news fill your social media with positive, inspiring, uplifting and motivational stories.
Fill it with love.
Only follow those that promote love.
LILO - Love in Love out.
Talk to yourself like you love yourself
Dr Brené Brown has this written on a post-it note on her computer.
If a child were scared to go to school, you wouldn't chastise that child.
You wouldn't tell them they are stupid, worthless, or unloved.
You would comfort them, tell them that it's going to be ok, that they've got this, they are strong, resilient and that their fears, worry and anxiety will pass.
When your mind attacks, don't fight, don't argue, just soothe.
Agree with it.
I know the world is dangerous and scary, thank you for trying to keep me safe.
But I've got this, I'm going to be ok.
Be grateful, be thankful, show appreciation
I have a jumper that I love.
It feels nice, warm and I look good in it.
I'm grateful for it.
I'm grateful for the love I have in my life.
I'm grateful that I have a parent who is still alive.
I'm grateful for the smell of my coffee as I type this.
Gratitude is a practice, practice it.
Train your mind to focus only on the good.
Be grateful for the small things as well as the big things.
See the world through the eyes of love, not fear.
Life is chaos.
Life is messy.
Life is complex.
You will feel sad.
You will feel confused.
You will feel anxious.
You will feel fear.
Once an event has happened, it is in the past.
It is done.
Accept and step into your future.
Don't be driven by your past.
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