Consistency is one of the things we all struggle with, and yet consistency is vital if you want to achieve your goals.
We all do it; we start with good intentions. Join the gym, begin to learn a language, take a personal development course, or go on a diet.
We attack whatever our goals are with enthusiasm at first throwing ourselves into the process.
Only to trip up and falter.
We miss a day once, then twice, then a couple of days in a row before we give up altogether and we are back to where we started.
There are plenty of areas in your life where you are consistent, but when we are trying to make changes, we struggle with consistency.
So how do you get to be consistently consistent?
Understand why you are doing what you are doing
Being connected to your ‘why’ is vital. If you are doing actions without a clear intrinsic reason, then you’ll quickly lose motivation.
Your why has to be something that is important to you internally and not for external recognition. Writing consistently on my blog isn’t because I want to get readers, shares or likes (although those do help).
I mostly write to myself to help me clarify my thinking, get better at writing and grow my business.
Make a conscious decision to commit
People tell me that they are committed to their professional and personal development in one breath but in the next say how busy they are, how stressed they are and how they don’t have time for coaching right now.
The truth is that these people are merely interested and not committed.
If you are only interested, then you’ll give up the first time you hit a barrier, or you’ll find excuses not to do it.
If you are committed, you’ll do whatever it takes.
Don’t break the chain
I’ve been meditating each day now for 363 days, only two days to go for a year of meditations.
It was important to me not to break this chain of meditations. Did I only meditate some days for five minutes instead of twenty?
Yes of course I did, but I still meditated.
It is a powerful motivator knowing that I’ve meditated every day previously and if I miss one day then this chain of events will be broken.
Meditate and practice mindfulness
I know I am biased with this, but it wasn’t until I started meditating that I found consistency.
Many of our problems with consistency lie with our anxious and busy mind.
Meditation has given me the knowledge that thoughts are only thoughts and emotions are only emotions. They don’t have any power over me nor do they define who I am.
Being engaged on one task at a time without my mind worrying about future consequences nor ruminating about the past has given me the power to focus.
It helps me to connect with my ‘why’ when I am driven by an automatic reaction.
Only yesterday I was in a shop that offered customers free packets of gummi bears. I automatically picked up a packet before the realisation came to my mind that this isn’t what I wanted. Then I put the packet down right away.
Studies have already shown that our decisions originate before we become consciously aware of them. Mindfulness and meditation interrupt that process and give you more space to make a conscious decision.
And finally, if you do fall off the wagon with your new habit. Don’t try to overcompensate, just brush yourself off, give yourself a dose of compassion and jump back on again.